How to Politely Ask for Money Instead of Wedding Gifts
How to Politely Ask for Money Instead of Wedding Gifts
In today’s world, more and more couples are choosing to ask for money instead of traditional wedding gifts. Whether you’re saving for a dream honeymoon, a first home, or simply want to build your future together, requesting cash contributions can be a practical and appreciated alternative. Still, it can feel a little awkward knowing how to ask graciously. This guide will help you phrase your request with elegance, warmth, and confidence.
Why More Couples Are Choosing Cash Gifts
Traditionally, wedding gifts helped couples furnish a new home, but many modern pairs already live together or have what they need. Instead, guests are often delighted to contribute towards something truly meaningful:
A honeymoon experience or travel adventure
A deposit on a new home or flat
Home renovations or big-ticket purchases
A charitable donation or cause close to your hearts
Cash gifts offer flexibility, reduce duplicate presents, and allow couples to use contributions in the way that matters most to them.
How to Phrase It Kindly
The key is to be clear, gracious, and never presumptive. You should never demand or expect a specific gift, but rather offer a gentle suggestion. Here are a few warm ways to include the message:
Add it to your wedding website
Include an enclosure card with your invitations
Display a tasteful sign at your reception (such as a "Wishing Well" or "Gift Table")
Sample Wording Ideas
Here are a few suggestions, depending on your tone and wedding style:
Formal & Polite
Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. Should you wish to honour us with a contribution, a monetary gift towards our future together would be deeply appreciated.
Modern & Direct
We’re lucky to already have a home full of everything we need. If you’d like to give a gift, we’d gratefully accept a contribution towards our honeymoon fund!
Light & Playful
We’re tying the knot and can’t wait to celebrate with you. If you’re thinking of giving a gift, a little cash for our next adventure would make our day!
Cultural Considerations & Alternatives
In many cultures, giving cash is already a long-standing tradition. However, some guests may still prefer to give a physical present. To accommodate everyone:
Mention that all gifts (of any kind) are welcome and appreciated
Consider setting up a honeymoon fund or charity registry
Offer both options on your website or gift list
If you're hosting a multi-cultural wedding, a short explanation can go a long way in helping everyone feel comfortable and respected.
Elegant Card & Signage Ideas by Larosier Prints
If you’d like to share your gift preference with grace, Larosier Prints offers beautifully designed cards and signs that match your wedding theme. Our minimalist styles and timeless fonts fit seamlessly into your décor, whether you're having a romantic garden wedding or a chic modern celebration.
Popular signage ideas include:
"Wishing Well" cards with custom wording
"Our Honeymoon Fund" reception signs
Small enclosure cards for your invitation suite
All pieces can be customised to match your colours and stationery collection, so you can express your wishes in a thoughtful and stylish way.
Final Thoughts
Asking for money instead of gifts isn’t tacky or rude when done with care and kindness. With clear wording and a personal touch, your guests will appreciate knowing how best to celebrate your love. And remember—whatever they choose to give, the most important gift is their presence on your special day.
